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Sandcastles™ is a nationally recognized program to help children cope with their parents' divorce.  It has been featured on NBC Nightly News, CBS Weekend News, and in a February 27, 1995 cover story in TIME Magazine.  The creator of Sandcastles™ is M. Gary Newman, LMHC, psychotherapist and certified family mediator with the Florida Supreme Court.  Newman trained facilitators in Menomonie,  making this program available to families in Dunn and surrounding counties.

Sandcastles™ strives to help children:

  • Understand their feelings are normal and that they are not alone;
  • Express their thoughts and feelings productively in a neutral, supportive environment;
  • Begin to feel comfortable communicating with their parents and others about the divorce;
  • Understand how divorce affects them and learn skills to handle their reactions to it;
  • See problems differently and create coping skills that lead to life changes related and unrelated to divorce; and
  • Understand that many types of families are possible.
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    The Program is the only seminar lasting 3 1/2 hrs. Parents and children meet separately during the first 3 hours and come together for the last 1/2 hour.

    Children participate in small, interactive groups with others their own age.  The groups are arranged according to ages: 6-7, 8-10, 11-13, and 14-17 years old.  To make the Sandcastles™ experience comfortable and enriching, trained facilitators lead role playing, videos, plays, group discussions, and workbook activities.  In addition, the children create a newsletter, featuring their original artwork, detailing the activities of Sandcastles™.

     
    When parents divorce, children experience a variety of emotions ranging from confusion, guilt, and abandonment to loneliness and uncertainty.  At any age a child may not understand why parents separate and divorce.  A child or adolescent may also feel responsible, and be unsure of the future.  Sandcastles™ is a program to help children understand and cope with these feelings in a safe and supportive environment with other children who are experiencing divorce.
      It is not the intent of the program or the group facilitators to place blame on any one parent.  Group facilitators are encouraged not to lecture or give advice.  Rather, they provide a healthy atmosphere that encourages children to develop their own attitudes and solutions.
      Divorce is painful and confusing. How you handle it as a parent determines a lot about how your child will respond to it, both today and in the future.
    While your child is participating in their peer group session, you will have the opportunity to learn about topics that will allow you to help your child through this difficult time and the months to come. Some of those topics include:
    How kids' at different ages and stages commonly perceive divorce.
    *Coping with kids' common fears about separation.
    *Helping your child deal with change.
    *How to build a co-parenting relationship, even when you think you can't.
    *Your key role in helping your child rebuild after the divorce.
      Contact:  Jamie Lawrence-Olson at Positive Alternatives, Inc. in Menomonie   (715)-235-9552 between the hours of 8:00 am and 4:00 p.m. Monday through Friday.

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